5 Key Concepts to Help You Banish Guilt & Resentment

I was always fraught with guilt, and it’s such a waste of an emotion. It keeps you out of the moment of being where you are.  ~ Kyra Sedgwick

The working title for this article was “Don’t let the OOPS’s Get You Down”. You know – all the stuff that we do or don’t do that we should have done (or not). Mistakes. Forgetfulness. Bad attitudes. Errors in judgment. Unforgiveness. Anger, blame and resentment. All of them seem to be a part of our everyday existence. … And we know they shouldn’t be. We really do know better. So what should we do?

Here are five key concepts to remember whenever guilt or bad attitudes try to bring us down.

God has a way of making up for our mistakes. Surely He has borne our griefs (sicknesses, weaknesses, and distresses) and carried our sorrows and pains [of punishment] … He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our guilt and iniquities; the chastisement [needful to obtain] peace and well-being for us was upon Him, and with the stripes [that wounded] Him we are healed and made whole. (Is. 53:4-5 AMP)

It doesn’t matter what we did or didn’t do, Jesus covered it all. He took our guilt and grief on Himself. All of it. Since He took it, we no longer have it (unless we try to take it back with a false sense of responsibility, i.e. guilt and blame).

Forgiveness in God’s kingdom is quick. Apologize to the people we need to. Repent (which means change our thoughts and actions so we don’t do it again). Jesus exchanged our OOPS’s for peace, healing and wholeness. Receive it. Be grateful for it. God always has a plan to redeem the OOPS’s in our lives.

Put a positive spin on everything. Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost. (Rom. 15:13)

No matter what we’ve done or how we’ve acted, God wants to fill us with all joy and peace. He wants us to believe, to abound in hope. Hope that our OOPS’s aren’t permanent. Hope that people will forgive our bad attitudes. Hope that He still has a good plan for our lives. Biblical hope is super-charged by the Holy Spirit. Look for it. Expect to see an unexpected answer. Find the good in every situation.

Believe that good things are coming toward you. I came that they might have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows). (John 10:10 AMP)

Sometimes guilt and negative feelings stop us in our tracks. We feel unworthy of blessing or abundance. “Look what I’ve done,” we say. “I don’t deserve to feel good.”

Guilt and other negative emotions are subjective. They’re also selfish. “It’s just how I feel,” we might think. We’ve lost sight of the truth that God has planned a life of abundance. Guilt is limiting. It focuses on the past. God wants you looking forward.

Let go of the blame – yours or theirs. According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love: (Eph. 1:4)

Blame cannot exist in the same space with Love. We are created in God’s image and the Bible says God is Love. He devotes an entire chapter (I Cor. 13) to the subject of love. We read it at weddings as an example of perfect relationship. In verse 7 it says that love bears all things … endures all things. Blame is a worthless emotion. It doesn’t matter who did what – it’s over. Move on.

Grab your harvest anyway. We can plant seeds, forget to water them – and still get a harvest! God visits the earth and waters it … (Ps. 65:9) He takes care of our stuff. He has a good plan for each of us and the power to carry it out. All He wants from us is to cast down imaginations and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ (2 Cor. 10:5).

Banish thoughts of blame, guilt, grief, anger, and bitterness. Don’t let them have a stranglehold on your life. When He tells us to fight the good fight of faith (1 Tim. 6:12), God wants us to believe Him for everything and walk in Love. As we practice agape love, we will discover that guilt and blame have no power over us. We will find a harvest of joy, peace and abundance in every area of our lives.



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