Finding Your Peace

It’s a word that’s been used and abused so much that its true meaning is muddled.

In its purest form, it’s more powerful than dissent, anger, unforgiveness or hatred.

It’s faster at restoring harmony than any other human emotion, action or effort.

And it’s able to stop stress and conflict in a single moment.

BUT, it requires your cooperation and acceptance.

Of course, I’m talking about ‘peace’.

Peace is a calm centeredness. It provides security in the midst of turmoil, quiet joy in stressful moments and calmness in chaotic situations.

Peace is an umpire for your life. It tells you when your thoughts, words and actions are “out” of control. It declares you “safe” when you are making right choices. Peace stands at home base (your heart) and tells you whether you are winning or losing.

Peace is internal, a part of your spirit that is intimately connected to Divine Spirit. It is a spiritual control switch. And you are the operator.

So, how do you find this place of peace?

First, recognize when you are NOT at peace.

Our minds and bodies have myriad signals that tell us when we are out of control. Stress, anger, frustration, worry. Headaches, elevated breathing, muscle tension, stomach ache. All are symptoms, not causes. They are signals that peace is missing.

Next, STOP. Whatever it is you’re doing, stop. Breathe deeply and slowly.

Take a moment to mentally examine where you are, how you feel … and why. Ask yourself the all-important question: “Is this situation worth losing my peace?”

Are you in an argument with your spouse? Will the results – or lack thereof – be worth the turmoil and stress to both of you?

Are your children pushing your ‘hot button’? Will having your own tantrum solve theirs?

Is your job making you ‘nuts’? Is it truly the position – or your attitude? Is it worth the stress you feel when you keep yourself so stirred up?

Recognize that YOU are the one perpetuating your emotional turmoil. You have forgotten to let peace be your umpire.

My favorite ‘trigger’ question is “Will it matter next Tuesday?” It’s my way of reminding myself that whatever IT is, isn’t worth my anger, frustration and stress.

Third, TALK to yourself.

Tell yourself – aloud if possible – “I will not go there. I will not allow this situation to have control over my thoughts and emotions. I choose peace.”

If you’re with someone else, tell them you are choosing not to continue the conflict. Explain that you are want peace more than victory. If necessary, apologize for losing your temper (peace).

An apology for your bad behavior does not have to include agreeing with their point of view. You are merely accepting responsibility for your own actions and attitudes. Doing so puts you in a position of strength, not weakness. And it restores your peace.

Fourth, connect with joy.

Touch. Hug someone – even if it’s the person you’ve been in conflict with. Human touch is restorative, healing.

Laugh. You can choose to laugh on purpose. Give a little chuckle. Smile. After all, God is probably chuckling at our very human foibles and follies. Putting a smile on your face is an instant attitude adjuster.

The Bible tells us to “seek peace and pursue it” (Prov. 34:14). If you’ll do that, if you’ll make the decision to let peace be your umpire, you will maintain the peace and joy that God intended you to have. Then you’ll have true success, victory in every situation.

Now may the Lord of peace himself give you His peace at all times and in every situation (2 Thes. 3:16).



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